When you become a “leader” of a Young Living Essential Oils team, it means a combination of things- always. Here are at least two of those “things.”-
First, you have supported enough people who have followed your lead on how to grow their own teams, from their very first gathering to walking across a stage at the annual convention.
Second, you got lucky. People joined your downline ready to build, with experience, and/or with an audience. You may not have “coached” them at all before they were on their way, sharing from the heart with no formal instruction. It is wonderful to see that spark fly and be witness to immediate, authentic success!
In Network Marketing, many of us are taught to move past the ones that might have potential but aren’t showing it, move past the ones that don’t demonstrate obvious duplication, and by all means, move past the ones that don’t walk the network marketing party line. This seems to be the mantra more often than not.
Whatever your philosophy about building your business, the choice is yours and that is the beauty of a network marketing adventure. We can make it our own! Each of us grow in our own way, in our own time, creating our own team. But sometimes “digging for diamonds” just means holding the space for your team member in mindful and intentional ways. The reality is, some of us build slower than others- systematically, or due to many reasons-
- We might be easing our community of connections and followers into our new identity-
- Maybe we don’t have a home conducive to home gatherings
- Perhaps being out in the community to foster a larger audience is a slow process due to a disability.
Everyone builds differently, for different reasons.
Support your team no matter what. You don’t have to “move on” if they don’t fit your mold or they aren’t moving quick enough for you. You can learn the art of a supportive and boundaried presence. When you flip the switch (change the energetic vibe) and turn that builder off in your head because they aren’t meeting your expectations, that energy is palpable and pervasive. Instead, hold that builder close (metaphorically) while you give your literal energies to the builders who are more active and asking for assistance.
Embody an inclusive attitude.
This is paradigm shift stuff- you know- the heady, yet soulful stuff of leadership and community. It is also about being mindful and intentional with words and thoughts. And this is important – especially if your mission and calling extends beyond you. Here are a couple of pointers:
- Refrain from suggesting someone is not aligned with the larger team, the Young Living mission and vision, or the network marketing business model. This can leave a person feeling misunderstood or unworthy.
- Please don’t use the term “uncoachable” if they don’t embrace a suggestion or idea. The very term “uncoachable” is an oxymoron in the world of true professional coaching. In a word, the term is insulting.
If someone is not meeting your expectations as a builder, consider suspending expectations. If you don’t know how to support someone who does not appear to be aligned with your business style, consider what you might learn from that person by leaning in and listening to the bigger story, and then, ease back without judgment or words, thoughts or actions that equal “dismissal.”
We might consider how many people would continue to share in one way or another, in big ways or small, if we truly accept them where they are at in their journey instead of dismissing them as unproductive, uncoachable, or not creating duplication…
All in good time and all in good fun!
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